I just today saw this post at answers.yahoo.com:
Rodney L:
Where can i find pretty filipina girls? is there any dating sites exclusively for filipina?
9 hours ago – 4 days left to answer”
Sadly, the first answer he got was from N who said “filipina are worst golddiggers ever.” Nevermind the bad spelling or grammar
A Filipino or Filipina might initially think, “Ohhhh, isn’t that niiiiiice—Rodney wants to marry a pretty filipina…” and “oh that mean N person calling filipinas the worst golddiggers… oh how mean…” yadayadayada…
But, if you search the key word of Filipina in google or other search engines the results yield dozens of matchmaking sites and dating sites for mostly foreign men looking for Filipinas as potential brides. Rodney L will obviously find that out soon… And i have no need to answer Rodney or N.
16 years ago, in 1995, when someone did such a search on “filipina” it yielded “mail order brides” and sex tourism sites(see other post on early Filipina sites online). Today, because of laws and regulation, the term mail order bride is no longer in use and people have changed their online services to “pen pal,” “matchmaking” or “dating” sites. So still, it seems to be that at this moment in time and space, the term of “filipina” on the internet is about mostly foreign men looking for Filipinas as potential brides. This is what “filipina” yields at search engines on the internet. This is the narrow identity that the world wide web has accidentally come about for “Filipina.” We Filipinas know it isn’t true of all of us…
Still, the damage has been done. The stereotyping of Filipinas (see old post) and negative attitudes towards Filipinas towards the “dark side” of being good wives has been set. Some of it by unscrupulous Filipinas who are in fact locked in to their survival instincts to the point of being immoral, and most by a slew of services that have taken advantage of the large numbers of Filipinas who are looking for love and financial support from men who live outside the country of the Philippines with its high poverty levels. This is also globalization.
It’s a mere fact. it is what it is.
We can each only do our own thing in the world to bust the stereotypes by being the best Filipinas, best women, best human beings we can be in the world.
Because as a collective whole we are not the narrow strip of stereotypes that some people have relegated us to in their own narrow experience of the world.
Rather, we are a stunning array of different human beings who were born as females, born as Filipinas, who live our lives in so many different ways, and it is a sad, sad thing for a small percentage of people in the world to only know of us as pretty, only as nice, only as “worst golddiggers” when so many others of us are strong, kind, gentle, intelligent, independent, creative, pioneering, healing in our many different roles as sisters, mothers, daughters, wives, girlfriends, leaders, teachers, nurses, doctors, nannies, professors, dancers, filmmakers, artists, musicians, singers, scientists, judges, lawmakers, homemakers, managers, organizers and more…
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July 24, 2012 at 2:14 am
@ Rodney L, There are so many dating sites BUT you will find a lots of scammers, the only dating site where is no scammers is: http://www.datingnmore.com/ all the profils has been verify, it is not like cheryblossoms, or date in asia or filipinakisses etc… where the scammers are just waiting for you to come.. but the GODEN RULE is: NEVER SEND MONEY TO SOMEONE YOU MEET ON INTERNET AND NO MATTER THE REASON and the SILVER RULE is: YOU HAVE TO SEE HER ON CAM…maybe 2 or 3 sessions no cam but if it is more than that just flush her…
also visit this website, you will learn a lots about the filipina scammers and sad story that happened to a lots of foreigners: http://dragonladies.org/bbs/index.php
I am married with a filipina and happy but they are not better than others, they have their own personality but i understand also the filipina that get so tired about being played by the stupid foreigners…yes it works from both side…be honnest but avoid the datind site with scammers…
good luck to you.